Anger

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Prof. Waldemar Ritter in 2015 showing signs of anger while giving a lecture.

The emotion anger, also known as wrath or rage, is an intense emotional state.

Some people get angry and act in ways they later regret. They might say or do something hurtful, make verbal threats or destroy property. If your angry behavior is affecting your work or relationships, you can use the information below to better manage your anger.

Know that you can connect with an expert through your Employee Assistance Plan (EAP) or VA. Talk with your provider to learn more about using anger management techniques in your daily life. Consider talking with your provider about what’s causing your anger. There’s a lot you can do to help you cope with anger.

Identify anger triggers[edit | edit source]

Triggers are things that “trigger” or bring up the feeling of anger. We all have triggers. You might notice angry feelings surface when you’re stuck in traffic or when you feel disrespected. The important thing is to notice your own anger patterns.

Triggers can be things around you, like someone talking loudly when you’re trying to work or getting an expensive bill in the mail. Or they can come from inside of you, like physical pain. Reminders of military combat or loss can trigger a lot of feelings, including anger. Knowing your triggers can help you manage your response when you get angry. After all, anger doesn’t have to be a problem.  You can still choose to respond in a way that helps yourself and others.

Notice signs that you may be angry[edit | edit source]

Sometimes anger shows up so fast you might react before you realize it. Reacting quickly can be a great skill, like in matters of life-or-death. But in civilian life, it’s often better to slow down, assess the situation, weigh your options and then choose how to respond. One of the best ways to slow down is to notice signs that you may be angry.

Most people can notice signs that they are having an emotion, including anger. You might notice changes in your body. These can include increased heart rate, fast and shallow breathing, a flushed face or clenched fists. Sometimes your body knows you’re angry before you do. Other signs can be thoughts (e.g., “I’ll show him!”), feelings (e.g., fear, hurt, envy, etc.) or actions (e.g., grinding teeth). Notice these signs so you can choose how to respond. Rather than reacting on impulse, you can respond in a way that’s helpful.

Managing anger doesn’t mean you never get angry. It means taking steps to manage your anger response. Here are some ways you can deal with anger:

Take a time-out[edit | edit source]

Sometimes getting away from a situation is the best course of action. Walking away doesn’t mean you’re giving up or admitting defeat. Here are some questions to consider:

  • Can I solve this problem right now or can I come back to it later?
  • Will my response be helpful and fitting?
  • Am I sticking to my values and what I care about?
  • What will happen if I take a break?
  • What is best for everyone in this situation?

Pause to take some deep breaths[edit | edit source]

Most people take shallow breaths when they’re on edge. When your anger level rises, breathe in deeply and let yourself slow down. Start with three slow, deep breaths, and repeat as needed. See the handout on deep breathing.

Phone a friend[edit | edit source]

Identify one or two people you can talk to when you feel angry or on edge. These should be people you can trust to “hear you out” and won’t “egg you on” or make it worse. Let them know in advance what you’ll need from them when you’re angry. For example, say, “I just need you to listen,” or, “I need you to remind me to breathe.” Be sure to ask if they’re willing to help. Know they won’t always be available and have a list of other coping strategies handy.

Self-care[edit | edit source]

We’ve all been there. You don’t get enough sleep and it puts you in a bad mood or you’re irritable because you’re hungry. Know that things like sleep and nutrition can help you cope with your anger. Maintain a healthy diet, exercise regularly, get enough sleep and avoid drugs and alcohol. These self-care tips can pay off - improving your mood and ability to cope with stress.

Getting help from an EAP provider[edit | edit source]

Know that the EAP offers you free sessions to talk about your anger. If you’re meeting with an EAP provider, you can learn some coping skills. Learn about managing your anger through relaxation skills, dealing with conflict, healthy communication and self-care. Your EAP provider can help you make a plan for managing anger, and can refer you to other resources if needed.

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